Dating is stressful at the best of times. Dating in our teens, 20s and 30s is hard enough. When you reach middle age it's downright daunting.
Finding a date shouldn't be that hard. There are friends who can set you up, co-workers who can do the same. There are groups to join, age appropriate clubs to scour and websites to sign up for, and yet for some, it's darn near impossible to find that one person you really enjoy being with. A friend told me it's because our tolerance level for BS is lessened with each passing year. I tend to agree, although I prefer to think of it as knowing more about what I want in a partner. So where is the one?
Marnie went shopping for hers, literally. She would get dressed up in her finest casual grocery shopping clothes, complete with nails shiney and hair sleek. She told me; "Find the ones with carts full of microwave dinners, chips and cereal." I tried peering into men's shopping carts a few times but all I got were strange looks. I didn't like being a cereal stalker.
Heather had another idea. "My mom was renovating her kitchen and I went to Home Depot almost every day. Every now and then I'd make eye contact and smile, but no one ever approached me." Then one day she got up the nerve to flirt. "I was looking at some product and I asked his advice. He was very helpful and I noticed he wasn't wearing a ring. Just as I was going to ask him if he could give me a first-hand demonstration, his son came up to him and told him that Mom was waiting. So much for wedding rings!"
My experience at Home Depot was a little different. I even wrote a poem about it - which I've posted below.
So where can you meet eligible singles? You could always seek them out in their natural environment. Find something you like, have a passion for, and get involved. Join a church, a singing group, volunteer at the SPCA, help clean out local streams or plant trees. There are hundreds of organizations looking for volunteers, join them, pitch in and maybe, just maybe you'll meet someone you like. Then once you find someone with at least one thing in common you have to go through the arduous task of finding out what else you have in common and if they are right for you. In today's busy world - that's a lot extra work - even if it is worth it.
In the past I've tried all of the above, including online dating. It gave me a bit more information before I decided to go on a first date. In fact, I met my ex-husband that way back in the 20th century before online dating became popular.
Lately I've been thinking about finding myself a matchmaker. I've heard there is one in the area, Julie of Magnetix Dating Agency. They mix modern technology with good old-fashioned matchmaker mojo to find someone just right for you. Something tells me it's time to give them a call. After all, you never know until you try.
*There are no last names in this article because the people interviewed don't want to mess up any chances of getting dates in the future.
(a true story about what can happen at Home Depot)
I needed some things for my garden
So off to Home Depot I went
I do love having a garden
But look at the money I've spent.
Excuse me - I said to a staffer
Who was rather a handsome young lad
I need a stand for this sprinkler
It's the best head I've ever had.
His face it turned rather crimson
As I burst in to laughter with tears
I'm sorry - I said thru my giggles
I've really been like this for years.
We soon found what I needed
And he asked if need much more
I smiled as I thought of my task list
I said "Yes - a coupling for sure!"
I told him there's just one more thing
I needed to fix up my hose
A male and a female I blurted
I smiled and looked at my toes.
Bits and pieces in hand I was finished
I had all I needed, I was set
I thanked him and went to the check out
As he called out "Have fun getting wet."