So far, I've ranted on about how to meet people in public places and in groups, and the difference between using a real live matchmaker and online dating. Who knew finding the right one could be so hard!
There are days I wish this task was easier. What ever happened to good old-fashioned bumping into someone? In our fast paced world, it's hard to know our neighbour, let alone find a single one. The boy/girl next-door stories we've all heard about are now relegated to a bygone era. It's rare these days to meet a couple that met while living in the same neighbourhood.
Not long ago I did meet a single man, around my age, in my neighbourhood. He was from the prairies, as am I, so I thought I'd invite him out for lunch. After all, we were both from the same part of the world; we must have something in common… right?
And I do mean hell. Fire and brimstone were pretty much the topic of the day and I bit my tongue for most of the lunch. Finally, I could take no more of his one-sided pontificating and called him on some of the downright racist and bigoted things he was saying. His response: "You're cute when you get mad." It was at that point I called for a double martini and the bill. Ok, so the boy next door didn't work out: next!
Now I know some of you are thinking, well at least it didn't cost you anything to find out he wasn't a good match. Yes, that is true, but seriously, I would have paid to get that time back, as it truly was wasted. I was very relieved when I was able to lock my front door behind me. Fortunately, he moved away… bullet dodged!
In the last couple months, I've met a few nice fellows through friends. They weren’t quite the boys next door, but they did live within 15 km of me. I had something in common with all of them. I went out on dates and although they were perfectly lovely men, there wasn't enough in common or even chemistry there. Then I had the awkward moments when my friends asked me what I thought, Ooops - oh well at least I didn't have to go sniffing around like a dog following a scent trail, just to find out if they've said anything about me.
And yes, I did go out on another date through the dating agency but – meh – not one bit of chemistry. By now I was getting to the point of giving up. Still - there was a smidge of hope left... right?
I haven't found my match yet, but I know he is out there and I have another date next Friday - wish me luck!